There is a big debate around consent in India and elsewhere and considering how men have also start taking part in the debate and a few of them supporting women is only heartening. While at one hand women are showing solidarity and using #MeToo sharing their stories of sexual assault or simply reassuring other women and other survivors of sexual assault, that they are alone, men have once again come out in support.
Our pop culture is proof of the fact how misogynistic our society is, from movies to TV shows to social media jokes, we unquestioningly accept all misogynistic content and even worse, we enjoy it. Also, it wouldn’t be wrong to say that many of us tend to avoid getting into fights, even if we see a female getting assaulted or badly behaved with.
But thanks to the same social media and people becoming receptive enough, many guys have come out on and accepted how terrible they were with women in their lives, for they thought it was cool. A large number of men, in response to #MeToo, have taken to Twitter and started #SoDoneChilling to call out sexism inherent in our society, and the step is actually praiseworthy.
I was 12 and lifted up the skirt of a girl in my class, thought it was fun, didn’t know it was wrong. My kids know better #SoDoneChilling https://t.co/LGwtlUxJ3s
— Mark Robinson (@ddmfhsuk) October 16, 2017
The last time I victim-blamed, I was 17.
I very obviously got shut down strongly. And I didn’t get it right away— Garbage Koala (@february_31st) October 16, 2017
#soDoneChilling, because my lethargy to speak up directly contributes to unsafe environments for women.
— JD (@JediKhare) October 16, 2017
Stop making jokes with sexual tones and connotations about your female friends, especially when they’re not comfortable with it.
— ζ (@zedchrmsm) October 16, 2017
#soDoneChilling and being quiet when men around me use the phrase “ladki saala” when someone displays sensitivity, and further claim it’s ironic.
— JD (@JediKhare) October 16, 2017
#soDoneChilling when I hear regressive arguments such as “men and women have differences, our society will prosper if we recognize those differences”
— JD (@JediKhare) October 16, 2017
We ‘woke’ men applaud women who share these painful stories but are willfully blind when such assault is taking place. #sodonechilling
— Karthik Shankar (@kookykarthik) October 16, 2017
If you’re drunk, go the fuck home and lie the fuck down. Don’t make it an excuse for acting like the privileged fuck you think you are. #EatShit #SoDoneChilling
— Sriram Kvlteswaran (@srikvlteswaran) October 16, 2017
Massive amount of respect for all the women speaking out. Today is a good day. Norms must change. I am #sodonechilling
— Jay Menon (@iJayMenon) October 16, 2017
The world will be a better place when men realise that it’s not their ‘duty’ to ‘protect’ women. I am #sodonechilling.
— Jay Menon (@iJayMenon) October 16, 2017
I will take care of my actions and words as well as men around me and make sure that we are not complicit anymore. #sodonechilling
— Deep Mirani (@somedeepguy) October 16, 2017
Yes. YES. Definitely #SoDoneChilling. And you should be too. Again, speak up, CALL IT OUT IF YOU SEE IT.
— Nikhil (@WordFount) October 16, 2017
(Also read: Me Too: The hashtag that’s uniting survivors of sexual assault on social media)
Kudos to all these guys, who have the courage to accept things as they are.
